Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.- Rumi
We are born loving and joyful - it's our own thought patterns that make us forget this. Our natural state IS love and IS joy
Picture you're in the most beautiful crystal room - it's full of sunlight and is pristine. Now picture you're in the room, but your eyes are covered with your hands. Your hands are pushing on your eyes and you say "it's so DARK in here I'm so scared." All you had to do was open your eyes and step into the light.
The first step is to just choose the light in each moment - ask yourself if you are acting from a place of love or a place of fear, and choose the light.
It doesn't mean you'll never deal with the dark, but it means you'll learn how to live in the light with fleeting durations of dark, versus living in the dark with fleeting moments of light.