If our minds are just analyzing and digesting what we see and hear based upon what we have learned in the past, then let yourself understand that the way you are perceiving someone else is how you perceive yourself. what disowned part of you are they showing? "They are so confident" - just like YOU, if you would allow it. "They are so Rude" - just like you, sometimes. What you think of others is telling of what you think of yourself.