"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart" - Helen Keller
I've posted before about how I didn't cry for several years. I disconnected from my emotions sufficiently enough to bottle any uncomfortable ones. When I work with people, we identify core patterns. For me, a core pattern was to be the rock when something sad happened. To not cry at all or show others I was crying. To hold down the fort.
When you pinpoint a core pattern, the key is to witness it in all the ways it shows up next. When you notice it, you then have a choice to CHOOSE AGAIN.My dog died this weekend, and as I sat with my family determining whether it was his time to go, I noticed myself bottling up my emotions. holding the space for my devastated parents to process their emotions. Then as I felt the constriction in my chest build and build from holding in my upset, a feeling I knew all too well, I decided to choose again.
I chose to let my emotions, even the uncomfortable ones like deep sadness, wash over me and wash through me. I chose to let myself cry. There was a freedom that came from just allowing those feelings.
Emotions don't go away by ignoring them - they get lodged in you. The key is to be the witness to your feelings and see, hear and feel all of them... FULLY.
Is there anything you're bottling right now? Here's my message to you: feel it. Feel it ALL. It's okay to feel sadness. It's okay to feel vulnerability. It's okay to feel unbounded joy. feelings are just feelings - it's us that attach meaning to which ones are good and which ones are bad. They're all part of the magnificent tapestry of the human experience. Shine on love warriors.