I was in NYC last week taking the Class by Taryn Toomey (which you must check out next time you go), and she started the class by saying:
"The brain is an organ. Its job is to think thoughts. What thoughts are you thinking right now?"
The brain is an organ. It is thinking thoughts - what thoughts are thinking and you believing right now?
Some of our beliefs help us - and some hinder us.
Some may have applied to us in the past - but don't apply to us now.
The key message I wanted to share is to see if you've gotten caught in a strongly held belief, thought, idea, or perspective - and to open up to a new possibility instead.
Which one might you be carrying?
Here's a hint - it might be one that begins with "I never..." "I should..." "I always..." "X... is bad" "Y...is good"
Once you get which one you might be attaching to quite strongly, evaluate whether that thought or belief is actually helping you right now.
For example, I used to believe "I never run. I hate running." Then one day I questioned the thought, opened up to a new possibility since I had two legs, and started running. I actually now love running by the lake.
Another one might be "I can only meet a partner through (dating apps/no dating apps)" or "I should be doing more right now."
Is that true? Is it really true? What would happen if you allowed yourself to let that go and open up to a new possibility, that maybe that's not true?
Once you've figured out the belief, whether its helping you or not, the last piece of this puzzle is to allow yourself to see it from a new perspective.
Write out "I'm ready to see this differently. I'm ready to let go of this perspective to see a new one."
It is SO liberating. To allow your thoughts to un-attach. To create a new perspective. To open up to new possibilities.
This tiny mindset work comes from a Course in Miracles and can be extremely helpful when we've noticed we've gotten caught in a thought.
I hope this helps you - its time to allow your thoughts and beliefs to shift and evolve as you shift and evolve!
One of the biggest themes I've been seeing lately with coaching clients is a need to BE more and DO less.
Sometimes you don't have clarity yet because the Universe just wants you to be right now.
Being over doing. This is the new flow over hustle. This is the feminine, balanced approach to growth and development.
Are you a "doer"?
I'm going to invite you this week to try "being." Being means - doing nothing. It means stillness. It means appreciating, with gratitude, all that is good in your life. It means doing the things that light you up simply because they light you up. It means practicing being okay with being still.
Because here's the thing - often we think that we are only worthy if we "do."
We think that we will only be successful or receive success if we "do."
We think that we will only be loveable if we "do" - but we are loveable simply because we are alive.
Let that sink in for a moment - you are worthy simply because you are alive, here on earth, in this moment.
You don't need to "do" anything to be loveable, gorgeous, successful, incredible and worthy of all of the things that you desire - you already are.
The trees aren't freaking out if they are worthy of having leaves. The flowers aren't hustling to get more sun. Everything in nature is fully provided for because that's the way that the universe works.
Tonight I want to invite you to create more SPACE in your week this week. I want you to take the pressure off yourself. I want you to create more space to just "be" and not "do." I want you to do less.
It might be harder than it seems, but you've got this. In that space, you will get radical, crystal clear clarity on the action you need to take. Then you will know, will certainty, that that is the exact next thing you need to do.
Your self reflection Sunday question is simply - "how can I BE more this week and DO less?"
Love you - you deserve it all!
It's just such a potent time of years for actually taking radical action toward living your best life and I want to help support you in any and all ways that I can because...
You deserve all the things you want for yourself in your life. I know that you want it all - an epic career that you feel passionate about, big love, big confidence, the freedom to be who you really are and a life that you are truly obsessed with.
I know that you may have been trying to make this all happen for yourself, and that's cool, but I've also been knee deep in this work for the last seven years and have developed a six week framework that actually creates massive shifts and changes.
Okay, so onto Aries new moon:
This new moon is inviting you to take radical, fiery, bold action toward your dreams. Aries is a sign that helps us embody the fierceness of fire, power, and boldness.
The new moon in Aries is the first of this Spring season, boldly ushering us into Spring, officially. As the buds are starting to get close to breaking ground under what was snow for many months, consider what is ready in your life to break through to new ground.
What has been bubbling up in you that is ready to emerge?
What are you ready to unapologetically step into?
There's a whole energy of new growth and new awakenings right now. New SPACE for magic to enter from what has been dormant and sleeping during the winter. New fresh ENERGY for use to utilize.
Set your soul and desires on fire - its time to take action.
Last weekend's Revitalize Retreat in Prince Edward County has gotten me so excited for the upcoming weekend retreats! The theme was “revitalize”, which means to “imbue with new energy” and it was all about shedding the winter cocoons in order to feel energized, excited and shining bright for the Spring.
Today's thought: what in your life are you ready to imbue with new energy?
Retreats really are the frigging best. I am so incredibly grateful to get to lead them as creating this container for you to connect with other soul sisters, gain clarity, take a breather from normal life, and gain a new perspective is such a joy.
The next two experiences I’m hosting are the Muskoka Magic retreat and Camp Goddess. These two are near and dear to me because I've spent every summer of my life up north either at summer camp or at a family cottage in Muskoka - so I LOVE being able to share experiences here!
I didn’t think either were going to happen this year, but as per usual, the universe had other plans (more on that below).
Muskoka Magic Retreat – June 7-9, 2019, Woodfield
This is the same retreat offered last year in September that sold out almost immediately! There will still be baby goats, glamping, and ample time to star-gaze, hike in nature, get wild around the bonfire and do fun intention setting ceremonies and circles, do yoga outside, eat yummy food, and swim.
This retreat is about spending a few days knee deep in the MAGIQUE of being alive, and the magic of Muskoka.
We will move, explore nature, do workshops/circles on bringing even more magic/magique into our lives (manifesting like a boss babe), dance under the moon, and reconnect with our wild roots in nature.
If you want to spend a weekend in Muskoka to kick off the summer feeling like magique and light is literally vibrating off of every part of you and like you are amped on life, then this one is for you.
I grew up going to an all-girls summer camp. It was truly the best – we would swim, kayak, canoe, have a lot of laughs, sing, go weeks without washing our hair, and otherwise just have the best time.
Because of this, I had this idea of doing an adult version of camp with the same fun activities, but where we also do things like intention setting ceremonies, soundbaths, and circles.
Basically, camp with a side of spirit.
The story of how these came to be…
I LOVE Woodfield, which is why I hosted my retreat there last year. However, for a while they weren’t planning on hosting private retreats anymore, so I was scrambling to find a new place to host Muskoka Magic and had no luck.
Then in January, I kept feeling nudged to reach out to a friend I lost touch with who worked for Woodfield. I e-mailed him, and then later that day I was on my way to a pop-up class in random warehouse when I ran into him.
He let me know that Woodfield had just decided to host private retreats again, using all the proceeds to pay for families with kids with terminal illnesses to attend in the off-season, and that I could have the first pick of any weekend available. Done.
Then, I had been simmering on this Camp Goddess idea for over a year when my new friend Hannah approached me after Circle in February and asked if I had ever considered doing an event or retreat at a camp.
“Um, yes, actually. I have! I had been looking for the right camp this week but nothing has felt right yet.”
“I just spoke with a friend of mine today who owns a camp…”
As it turned out, her friend who owns the camp is a woman who I used to hang out with when we were both living in Australia over a decade ago! She lived with a friend of mine, and so whenever I would go and visit Sydney, I would stay with them.
We had lost touch but the universe now brought us back together for this!
I really hope that you and your friends join us!
Tonight I wanted to share my absolute favourite tool to use when I need to make a decision and am feeling stuck.
Many of you are considering six weeks to shine, considering that investment in yourself, considering whether you can make it happen, and considering whether its the right move for you. If that's you, you can try this tool right now!
Remember, you can register here. There are only 10 more spots left and registration closes Sunday night at midnight. If this is on your heart and you're unsure about it financially, there's a payment plan of $112.50 per month.
If not, think of an area in your life that you are feeling unsure of what decision you want to make.
Okay, now onto the backstory of how I found this tool and the tool itself...
You always have the answer within you.
I know, I know. It’s been said so much that maybe you’ve forgotten to believe it. But you do.
Some of the most valuable people in your life to have are those that do not provide the answer, but rather, create the space to lead you back home to yourself and your own inner wisdom.
After years of learning to follow the nudges from my heart, look for signs, and meditating daily, I had learned to hone my intuitive voice such that it would come through with in such a clear, authoritative, direct, precise, and loud nature that I couldn’t miss it.
In this place, living in flow is easy. You know the right place to go, you always meet the right person at the right time – and everything is magical.
After a little while of living this way, the universe started to test me by bringing me opportunities or new ideas that I needed to make decisions about that I would get tripped up on.
When I got the vision for Circle back in November, 2016 I wasn’t sure when to start it. I wanted to push it off until I was “ready” but my intuition kept telling me “right away.” I kept flip flopping.
In early 2017, I decided I wanted to reach a bigger audience. That led to me getting an offer to be on the Bachelor, but I was conflicted. My intuition said to follow the flow, but my mind said “no one is going to understand. This is the worst idea!!! There are so many possible outcomes here.” Again, I kept flip flopping.
My mind was spiralling with so many thoughts and narratives that I couldn’t access my truth – until I paused long enough to drop back into my body.
The body never lies, and is an incredible tool to access your answer when making a big decision.
Close your eyes, and imagine each possibility you are deciding between. You can imagine vividly, or you can just imagine each option as a colour, light, or symbol.
When you feel into that option – does your heart feel open or closed? Does your heart feel constricted, or does it feel expansive?
If it feels OPEN and EXPANSIVE it’s a YES.
If it feels closed or constricted in any way – it’s a NO.
You can apply this to anything in your life. I still use this tool all the time!
I hope this helps you!
If you are still feeling muddled on a decision, are looking to transform yourself and your life, and come back into your shiniest self – then come join this round of six weeks to shine!!!
I came across this study recently that I have been fascinated by, which was about the top causes of burn-out in the workplace.
According to the research, the top causes are:
1. Feeling ineffective/lack of focus
This leads you to use up energy spinning your wheels, getting nowhere, or feeling like you can never tackle your to-do list
This means feeling disconnected at work both to the individuals you work with and clients, as well as simply feeling disconnected from the work itself.
We all use technology pretty heavily within our workplaces, between e-mails and DMs and any other in-office server, and its leading to a lack of genuine connection within offices.
3. Emotional Exhaustion
This happens when we feel emotionally spent after taking too much time dealing with difficult personalities, exerting too much without filling up ourselves first (where those self-care practices at?!), and feeling disconnected from ourselves and our feelings.
So to combat these factors in order to keep you shining your brightest, try the following:
- Make an effort to connect with your co-workers or clients in a more authentic way this week by sharing about what you're most excited about it your life right now, or ask them a question about their personal lives
- Try meditation this week to help you focus! Have you never meditated before? This is one of my favourite things to teach people. If you have no idea where to start, simply inhale for 4 counts, hold for four, and then exhale for 4, and hold for 4.
- Carve out time this week to do something that fills you up, whether its a work-out, time with a friend to chat it out, or coming to Circle :)
With these three factors in mind, you can ensure that you are taking preventive, empowering actions to ensure that you keep feeling your very best.
You got this!
If you're feeling like the edge of burn-out, I've got you too. Six Weeks To Shine registration - my online course on self-care, self-love and shining - will open at the end of the month.
In addition, the Revitalize weekend in Prince Edward County is designed to help you glow from the inside out. You can find out more details here - but March 29-31, 2019 in PEC spent nurturing, loving up on, and filling yourself up. Would love for you to join! You can respond to this e-mail if you are in or have questions!
Mercury Retrograde began yesterday.
What does this mean?
Retrograde energy is backspinning, so imagine being in the water, chilling and gently moving through the water, when all of the sudden instead of swimming with the flow, you're going against the current.
That current, or backward energy, is a retrograde.
Mercury is the planet that rules our communication and power, and so the idea is that during this time we have this wonky, back-current energy stifling our ability to communicate or launch projects or intentions forward.
This by no mean means that you should stop what you're doing - in fact, I successful launched Soul School and Six Weeks to Shine by chance last year during both Mercury Retrogrades - so keep living your life!
However, do be mindful of this backward, set-back infusing energy.
The key here is simply to remember that this is a time to be extra-careful on what you're communicating and putting out there to the world, and also a great time for you to look at where you're being "pushed against the current" - so to speak - in your life.
Remind yourself of this quote - "Life is full of setbacks. Success is determined by how you handle setbacks."
Where are doors are continuously closing for you?
What is clearly not working in your life and have you feeling like groundhog day over and over?
Where do you keep being hit with setbacks?
Use Mercury Retrograde as a time to take a step back to see where you might be knocking on the wrong door over and over again waiting for something to change, when...
The right door for you is next door and has been waiting for you all along!
Pause, be open to receive guidance about a new way to do things.
Then we also have a new moon in Pisces.
Pisces is a super-dreamy sign. This is the sign of the poets, the dreamers, the doers, and the lovers. Think of the artist - they don’t worry about where the art is going, or how it will be perceived - they create for the sake of creating.
Use this dreamy energy to paint the picture of the life you wish to live. What do you want to create?
Similarly, if there is an artistic or creative pursuit that’s been nudging at you, it’s time to set the wheels in motion!
Happy Valentine's Day to you!
I hope that your heart has been feeling full lately, and if it hasn't, know that I am sending you love, support, and a gentle reminder that all of the things that you want are already on their way.
From one of my favourite poets, Rumi: "What you seek is seeking you."
Further to my last e-mail to you, Valentine's Day used to be a tough one for me. February is already a pretty dark and bleak month, and then society is going to throw on another layer of expectations and pressures to us?!
For years, I couldn't figure out what I thought about the day. I'm such a lover so loved the idea of a whole DAY dedicated to sharing love with everyone, but didn't connect with commercial aspects of it, and didn't know how I wanted to spend it.
I remember in my last relationships I actually wanted to celebrate Valentine's Day. Not in a "get me a present and let's devour these chocolates" way - but in a "I really love the idea of acknowledging our love for each other today" way, and I remember my partners were not about it and didn't like the holiday and I always found it a disappointment. In retrospect, I wish I had spoken up so that we could have met in the middle, but I never did.
So eventually I had to get it together and chose to decide what Valentine's Day means to me. I've chosen for the last few years to turn the entire month of February into an opportunity to deep-dive into self-connection and love, and have spent the last few Valentine's Days intentionally doing all of the things that light me up.
We are constantly given opportunities to design what we want our lives to look like and be like, and holidays are not different! You get to choose.
You do what feels right for you today.
And then you do what feels right for you in your life.
Truly, truly - the most loving thing that you can do is give yourself full permission to be who you really are and do the things you really want to do.
To powerfully step into becoming your true, authentic self - the most radiant, beautiful, aligned, and bursting with love version of you - that is the radical self love.
To love yourself in the messy, courageous, beautiful, and confusing journey to become the you that you came here to be - that's the radical self-love too.
Self-love to me is cultivating the courage to be who you really are, to remember your power, and to live in a way that feels magical, while also learning to cultivate gentleness and compassion toward yourself in the process.
It's also about loving ALL sides of yourself, and learning to be gentle with yourself as you shift, grow, make mistakes, fumble, and rise back up again and again.
On tonight's Valentine's Day, try:
1. Doing three things that you LOVE to do;
2. Writing out 5 things that you appreciate about yourself;
3. Ask yourself: what do I really want right now? And then do that;
4. Consider if there's something you really want to do but have been avoiding doing because no one will do it with you and then DO THAT THING.
As we explore our true selves more - the deepest, most authentic and heart-led parts within us, we can sometimes get so excited to explore the spiritual and emotional realms that we forget to nurture our physical bodies.
We invest in self-help books, crystals, retreats, coaching, and meditation cushions, but can fail to invest equal time and energy into our bodies.
As we change, what our physical bodies needs changes as well. The work that we do to shift and expand our minds and hearts needs to be grounded in our bodies - this is how our vibration literally changes.
If we fail to do this, we can get a little too stuck in the "air" or higher realms. When that happens, it can be difficult to birth our creations into the world because they are stuck up in idea-land. We can't show up as powerfully because our presence isn't as potent because we aren't fully in our bodies.
You know those people that just have an ENERGY or MAGNETISM about them? They walk into a room and you FEEL it.
These are people who not only have done the work to excavate their hearts and minds, but then have had the discipline to ground their work into their physical bodies.
Do you also know those people with a lot of great ideas or spiritual wisdom, but when you are in front of them there's just an...airiness about them and they can't seem to turn any of their ideas or dreams into anything tangible?
Basically, our bodies need to catch up with all the great work we do in the spirit and emotional planes.
Here is the key to doing this - our bodies need different types of physical movement depending on what we most need to balance/ground/nurture right now.
While pilates may have been your go-to before, you may be craving HITT or spin class. Similarly, if you are used to an intense vinyasa yoga practice, you may be craving more yin or restorative yoga. Let what you need change with whatever season you're in. We're all cyclical.
Tune in with your body and what it is really craving right now. It should show you what type of movement it needs to nurture/ground yourself the most based on what you're working with at this point in your journey.
Different types of movement will nurture your physical body, emotional body and spiritual body.
For example, when I am doing deep spiritual work I crave a lot of yoga, because it nourishes me and my connection to the divine.
When I am diving deep into the range of my emotions and feelings, I love dance/pilates release classes like Fusion from Misfit studio (side note: this class/all their classes are sooo amazing to get you into your goddess flow. For those of you not in Toronto, you can stream some of their classes here).
As my coaching and retreat offerings expanded, I started to crave a lot of intense strengthening like spinning and Barry's Bootcamp to make me physically stronger to energetically hold space for so many people's transformations.
When I am most in balance, I am rotating between all three to ensure that my physical body is nurtured on all three levels.
Try the self-reflection questions below to see how you can get back into balance with your physical body so that you can show up as the most powerful YOU moving forward.
There's a big wash of people experiencing feelings of overwhelm lately, so know that you aren't alone in it.
If you've been receiving my e-mails for a while, you know that full moons are a time where we tend to FEEL more deeply. Think of the full moon as a big old tidal wave, and with it it'll often bring up feelings of inspiration and clarity, or it'll bring up old doubts, fears or feelings of overwhelm for us to process.
This full moon is in Taurus, which is a sign that is very much about living the good life.
What is the "good life" to you? For everyone, success and living a well-lived, beautiful life looks different.
When we set intentions back in May, 2018 at this moon, I was asking you to think about peak experiences of beauty, joy and richness and what a vision would look like for you.
Now that we are in the full moon period, you may be feeling overwhelmed about whether or not your physical or emotional needs are being met, whether your goals are being hit, or whether your vision of living your best life could actually become a reality.
Whatever F E A R you are feeling right now, remember that its just a thought in your head and it is "false evidence appearing real."
The truth is, anything that you want for yourself in your life is possible for you, and the only thing that's standing between you and making your vision a reality is you.
This is why I am so JAZZED to share this mindset hack that has been a game-changer for me and my private coaching clients to literally rewire the brain to feel more confident in yourself and like you are totally able to make your dreams a reality.
Step 1: Write out what you really want/how you want to feel instead of the way you feel now - ie: write out the vision of yourself as your best version, living your best life. Maybe for you this is simply to feel more at ease and confident with managing stress.
Step 2: Write out what your ego/mind has to say about why this could not happen, or would not be possible, or historically hasn't gone to plan. Write out "this is what my ego has to say about this...." ie": “you don’t have enough time or money to make that happen.” “you always…” etc.
Step 3: Think of what a more empowering story would be to now insert every time that limiting belief or voice of fear comes up.
ie: “I am capable of handling and all challenges at work…” “Even though things are uncertain right now, I trust that everything is unfolding in perfect timing…” “I am worthy and capable of achieving my dreams…” “I find creative ways for money to find me and people love to pay me…” “my soul’s work needs to be supported…” “I am beautiful and radiant, and can’t wait for love to find me when its time.”
Step 4: Write out these affirmations on a piece of paper or in a notebook and read them every single morning when you first wake up and right before you go to sleep. This is because we have “baby brain” during these times, meaning that our subconscious are ready to be inputted with new information.
Step 5: Every time you feel your limiting belief or fear come up, STOP, pause, and then insert your new affirmation. You might feel like a robot at first, but over time, it will become second nature. This is because you are literally rewiring your brain to have a different response to external stimuli (but neuroplasticity is a different story for a different day).
I hope this helps you!!! This is the type of work we will be doing in six weeks to shine, a group coaching experience that begins November 4. Are you IN? E-mail me INTERESTED if you are.
If you know much of my story, you know that I've flipped my world upside down a few times and been left with my confidence shaken, my light diminished, and clarity nowhere in sight (the smoke).
I now have six week action plan that I lead myself through whenever this happens, and it works. I've now created an online group coaching program that's based on everything I've learned and implemented.
Enrolment will be opening on October 23, 2018 and closing November 4, 2018, so get ready!!! I am so excited that I could explode.
In the meantime, I wanted to help you out by sending out a few videos over the next week designed to help you start to connect with the goddess in YOU.
Remember from my last e-mail that the goddess version of you is just the best, most empowered, most radiant, most bad-ass version of you. If you've lost touch with her, then its time to come back home. You can get more information about the program by clicking here.
In the meantime, ask yourself these questions:
How in touch with you are you with your intuition or inner voice?
How connected do you feel to the universe? Do you feel that you are guided and supported?
How taken care of are you feeling? How nourished are you feeling through your self-care practices? Have you been pushing too much without giving enough time to take care of yourself?
Have you been expressing your creativity? Have you been feeling called in any way to express yourself creatively?
How turned on do you feel, in general? Do you feel connected to your sex drive or has it waned? How in touch with the pleasures of daily life are you? Are you out of balance in terms of your attachment to other forms of pleasure like over-eating, drinking, or seeking attention?
Do you have a clear vision of the best, most radiant version of yourself? Are you actively becoming her?
Are you in transition, or do you feel like you are about to be in one? Are you clear what’s on the other side of this transition?
How often do you take time where you simply follow your heart’s desire and do whatever you feel like?
Do you feel that there are toxic people in your life that you need to let go of? Why haven’t you released them yet?
Is there an ex that you keep on thinking about? Are you ready to let them go?
Are there friends that you feel like you’ve outgrown? Are you ready to let them go or are you scared?
Do you give too much to others at the expense of your own? What tends to get you out of balance and causes you to give too much?
We all have an inner troll/mean girl/saboteur. Is this voice of limiting beliefs, self doubt and fear loud right now or do you feel like you have learned to allow the softer, more gentle, loving and wise voice within you guide your daily actions?
What was the last “smackdown” you got, where the universe was giving you a clear message that it was time to make a change? It may have been an issue at work, a fight, a break-up, or a health scare.
Are you ready to end 2019 strong, like the radiant effing goddess you are?
Stay tuned. I hope you’ll join me!
Its the new moon in Libra tonight. As you know, at new moons we take time to go inward, take a pause, and set new intentions.
Libra is a sign that heavily explores relationships, balance and justice.
But I want to talk about relationships.
We learn so much by the people that come into our lives, as each are sent for a divine purpose to mirror back to us ourselves.
Our most important is ultimately our relationship with ourself. No matter how deep we are on our path, there is no better mirror for how deeply we are loving ourselves, where we need to heal, or where we are being called to step into our greatness than to have it mirrored back by another.
How we relate to another shows us how we relate to ourselves.
Where we shut others out shows us where we shut down parts of ourselves. Where we shrink around others shows us where we have shut down parts of ourselves.
Similarly, when we are in the presence of someone that we admire or look up to, we are merely being shown with a part of ourself that is being called to step into our own greatness in a further way. Their beauty, power, or influence mirrors back of our own.
It's a beautiful reflection to look at all the connections that are presently in your life and to evaluate why you think that your soul called them in. What are they teaching you?
If you're in a period of hustle - are you calling in people who love to have fun and take it easy? They have a lesson for you.
Similarly, are your co-workers highly critical of you? They may have a lesson about learning to cultivate greater compassion for yourself or to speak up more.
In dating, are you attracting in emotionally unavailable men? If so, then its time to look at your own heart, sister, and figure out what part of you still isn't fully open to love.
I have been pretty vocal about the fact that a ton of my growth, healing and expansion has come through relationships, to the point that one day I want to write a book all about it, so I'll save those stories for another day.
By relationships I don't just mean romantic relationships. I mean all of our relationships - friendships, co-workers, family members, or those who you have met only in fleeting moments.
Each new connection been brought as a teacher from the universe, so the question is - how are you showing up? Are you allowing them to teach you, and you them, or are you shutting down?
With this new moon, take some time to reflect on your most important relationships.
I've written out some questions for my e-mail newsletter. If you want to get that, sign up for my mailing list below, but the key here is to look at how all of your relationships are working - from friendships, to work, to dating or partnership - and then set intentions around the ones that might need some work to make them more harmonious going forward.
By the time that the Libra full moon comes to us in six months, how do you want to be feeling and showing up in your most important relationships?
Further reading on this new moon can be found on my favourite moon cycle website, Mystic Mamma, here.
It's that time of the month - the time of the full moon. This one is in Aries. Back on April 15, 2018, we were working on themes of new beginnings. Aries is the first sign in the zodiac, and carries with it a fire starter energy of getting up and DOING the THING.
Aries boldly moves forward through its fears, creates and implements healthy habits, and loves to implement new ideas and projects.
As a result, back in April we were looking at what new version of our life we wanted to build. What would it look like? What healthy habits were going to support us in our new life?
And now here we are now on the other side - the culmination of what those seeds have become. While some of you might be seeing a lot of success and beauty in your life, I've actually noticed a theme right now of people feeling overwhelmed, agitated, or frustrated by getting hooked by their self-sabotaging habits.
You know why this happens?
In order to step into a new life or a new way of being, we need to clearly be shown where we still hold ourselves back, where fear still keeps us stuck, or where we self-sewer ourselves through pushing whatever our chosen "stop button" is. The "stop button" we push to avoid our feelings instead of sitting with them (I hear about the same ones all the time - usually it looks like bingeing of some sort - on food, or a series, or drinking...or any combination of the above).
You find yourself caught in an old pattern or habit and you're like - "really?! This again?!"
This full moon is potent in that its illuminating for us some of our deepest core vulnerabilities and fears, and the habits or tendencies we have that limit us from stepping to the fullest expression of ourselves.
Instead of beating yourself up, try looking at what's been shaking down in your life with a new lens.
How do some of your limiting habits continually stop you from creating new, healthier ones? Where does the ego still puncture you with all of its fears once your inner wisdom has gifted you with a new amazing idea? Where to you continue to unnecessarily push yourself instead of letting things flow?
The process of growth calls us to feel our fears and limitations, witness them, and then choose love - and choose to forge ahead anyway.
It's not easy, but you can do it!!!!
I know that I said more videos will be coming to help you create a plan to align with your soul's path, but with all this intense universal energy, I thought it would serve you more to share some insight on this instead.
Firstly, don't panic.
Those of you with Aquarius in your chart may be feeling this placement a little more intensely. Either way, for those of you who always follow along with the prompts I give, this moon coincides with the work we were doing back in February on deepening our self-love and radical self-acceptance.
In terms of what's up in the sky, think of all of these energies coming together as one big lightening bolt that's just casually going directly through you.
Whoa!! Its uncomfortable, exhausting, and can make us feel super sensitive and frustrated.
For my energetically sensitive people, you may literally feel like you're being low-key electrocuted. Otherwise, this current may have left you feeling totally exhausted.
Either way, its a massive influx of light, and its making everyone feel really tired because we are energetic beings and we are basically being upgraded with a new voltage, you know?
On the other side of this, with that voltage - all that new light - what do you want to create? I promise you that once you integrate what's happening right now, you will have greater feelings of love, bliss and joy to put your desire into motion.
In the meantime, what's being shown to you is where you still self-sabotage.
I love speaking about how we all have an inner mean girl/gremlin/sabteuuuer - she's so annoying. She constantly trips us up, gets us out of alignment, snaps when we wished we hadn't, or tells us we aren't good enough or should be doing more.
She reacts based on a series of patterns as old as time - and by time, I mean your childhood. What do you still do when you feel overwhelmed/stressed/uncomfortable that's no longer serving you?
Where is she still in the driver's seat in your life?
This full moon/eclipse/retrograde smackdown is giving you an opportunity to see where that sneaky saboteeuuuurr is still running amuck.
While as a coach and teacher I can help others to see where she's still stepping in, you have to do the work once you've seen where she holds you back to actually understand where that pattern came from, and then actively choose a new action. #dothework
Choose again. Choose gentleness over struggle.
Understand where those patterns came from. How cool to know yourself so well, and to realize its just a habitual pattern that can be unwound.
You got this. Rest. Drink water. Meditate.
Lots of love,
P.S. It's my great honour to help guide you on your path. If you feel a nudge for one on one programs (if you start August/September you'll be finishing December - February which is perfect), you can book in for a discovery call here: https://catieappointments.as.me/
I am leaving my law practice! It’s been such a long time coming and I’m so excited to now share with you more of my journey!
Over the next week I’ll be releasing some videos to help you gain clarity about how to connect with your inner voice/soul, figure out where it’s leading you, and how to get on your path to get there.
I’ve often shared that back in 2013, I had a spiritual smackdown that led to a number of massive shifts in my life that you can read more about here or see here.
Soon after that happened, I got a vision in meditation. I was speaking, teaching groups about how to connect with their soul and the universe, running retreats and helping others one on one on their journeys.
It was clear to me from the beginning that while I loved being a lawyer, my soul was leading me in a new direction and I was going to have to surrender to it.
I had a pretty deep internal struggle with this – it was a classic mind over heart situation, that actually took a long time for me to process and work through.
The primary issue with the vision was that I had no idea how I was going to get there and I was the type of person that loved clearly defined steps.
In law, you just go to school, get the grades, pass the bar exam and get a job. This was going to be different. It seemed so far off and there was no clear blueprint how to get there.
I was so keen to make it happen, and remember asking the universe how I was going to do so and the answer was: “you need to do the work.”
"Ummm - Noted.”
I see now that I could never teach unless I was deeply rooted in my own practices, and had enough to teach based on having actually experienced it.
I spent that first year diving deep into myself, meditating, unravelling my mind to come back into my heart, and reading every book on spirituality and all things soul - this has only continued.
Not knowing a clear road of how to get to where I wanted to go, I decided that I would just listen to my intuition and take the next right step as it was time.
Starting in 2014, this is what I did. I began by teaching and sharing about the benefits of meditation. This led to people opening up to me about their journeys, which led to a coaching practice. Later I created the Circle community, started speaking publicly about my journey, and leading retreats.
Each step and offering built off the other, and each new opportunity only came when I was ready to handle and hold space for it (although its easier to see that now looking back - I had to learn to let go of timelines).
I always said I would leave my law practice when I felt complete in it, and when my business was busy enough that I could no longer sustain doing both. This happened, and now here we are.
So many of you are on your own journeys, and I am so excited to have more time to help support you in the best way I can, whether its working together one on one, coming on a retreat or to Circle, or using the tools and self-reflection questions I'll continue to post now that I have more time and space.
Stay tuned for a video later this week on getting clear on your vision, followed by a video on how to balance surrender with inspired action to make it happen.
Remember, anything you want for yourself in your life is possible.
Sunday self-reflection questions before.
Lots of love,
P.S. Journey to the Heart Retreat has sold out!!! We may have one spot, so if you are still on the fence but considering it let me know as we're trying to see if we can reserve another villa.
P.P.S. This means that my next retreat with availability is Costa Rica February 18 - 23, 2019 with Samara of @mindfulnessmatters. More details to come :)
Ever see the repeating numbers 111, 222, 333, 444, or just any combination of repeating numbers?
I know you have been because I've been getting a massive influx of messages on this subject and so wanted to address it.
Quite simply, repeating numbers are signs from the universe/your spirit guides/angels that you are exactly where you are meant to be, and are trying to get you to pay attention and strengthen your connection with it/them.
Be mindful of what you're thinking of when you see the numbers. If you're in a negative mind state, the numbers would be a sign for you to shift your thoughts back to love. If your thoughts are good and you're dreaming about something new that would be awesome, the repeating numbers are a sign from the universe that its a YES.
Each number has a different vibration. Doreen Virtue popularized the idea that different repeating numbers mean different things. You can read more from her here. However, my view is that they are just signs from the universe and your spirit guides to pay attention, trust the process, and to know that you are loving, guided and protected.
There's a line from a Course in Miracles that I love, which is "the presence of fear is a sure sign you are trusting in your own strength."
We are not alone in this journey. You are so supported, so loved, and so divinely guided. The more that you open up to the support and signs from the universe, the more that you'll be awake to the winks it continues to throw your way.
Next time you see these repeating numbers repeat: "everything is working out in perfect timing. I am completely taken care of." From there, reflect on what's happening - where are your thoughts? where are you? who's around? This will give you insight as to why the universe wanted to reach out to you at this point in time.
If it's a seemingly innocuous time, like when you're driving or you see 111 on the streetcar, don't dismiss it! The magic IS in the tiny moments - those little moments day to day where we have the ability to shift our thoughts back to love and restore our perception to one of peace, openness and curiosity.
If you have any further questions about this let me know!
Summer has come in HOT. Seriously. And Summer also comes with an onslaught of experiences, commitments, and distractions.
In flowing with the waves of these experiences, commitments and distractions, we can sometimes get lost in what we really want, or to stick with our self-care practices amongst the storm of activity.
As a further shake up, we also have a powerful Mars retrograde right now coupled with two eclipses this month that are creating really potent healing energy for us right now. Delays, frustrations, and run-ins with the past and past versions of you are common right now.
It's the type of energy where the universe is really testing us - "girl, I know you 'did the work', but did you do it sufficiently enough so that you're actually ready to leave your job? Are you actually ready to see your ex and not be triggered by it? Are you actually ready to go to a wedding and be present and take care of yourself?"
Here are three powerful questions to ask yourself each morning to ensure that you stay on track, aligned with your soul, and keep living from that gorgeous heart of yours:
- How do I want to feel today?
- What do I need most right now?
- What can I do today to feel the way I want to feel?
Using these three questions is a daily practice of mine, but ensuring I stick to checking in in this way is particularly necessary as my energy ebbs and flows with the flurry of activity this summer and the big changes about to unfold in my life. Try it!
Summer brings about this flurry of activity, and with the endless scrolling of other people’s feeds, or interacting in endless conversations at weddings or gatherings about what other people are up, you might be feeling a little bit of FOMO and comparison paralysis.
”My life is boring.”
“Why am I not there?”
“If I had gone, my life would seem less boring.”
“Gahhh – my life really is boring.”
“Why did they get to do that?”
“That looks way cooler than what I’m doing right now...”
Fear of missing out on… what, exactly? Fear of missing out tends to centre around the belief that we are not tapped in enough, doing enough, or are enough - period. It also is the fantasy that "if only X... then I would be cooler..."
I’m here to remind you that you are enough and you don’t have to DO anything to be the radiant, beautiful goddess that you are. Trust in your choices, and trust that you are always where you are meant to be.
We fear that if we were only there, we would be complete, or cooler, or our life would otherwise be better. This fear also stems from thinking that by honouring what’s best for us, we are somehow depriving ourselves from something that would be more awesome.
But FOMO is just another trick of the ego/your inner mean girl and so remember that it’s just a commentary on what IS, and isn’t real. It's your job to acknowledge your inner mean girl but then tell her to buzz off.
A quick fix for this is to get super present and to acknowledge all that is beautiful and great in that moment (gratitude FTW). Then, own the season you're in and why you are where you're at right now.
There is a season for you to be out a lot and socializing, and there’s also a season for you to be more contemplative, reflective, and rooting down with your family.
There’s a season to be travelling, and there’s a season to enjoying backyard BBQs at your home.
There’s a season to be enjoying your life with your friends, and there’s also a season for you to be cultivating new friendships while taking some space from friends you used to connect with.
There’s a season to be out doing all of the things, and there’s a season to be resting, chilling and taking it easy.
Whatever season you’re in right now – own it.
It's summer solstice!!! I love this day. This is officially the longest day of the year - we are infused with more sunlight than we will be all year. Soak in the sweetness!
Nature is the wisest of the wise and we can take so many cues from her. (and newsflash, if you forgot you are part of nature... ummm...totally normal, but just a reminder - you are inextricably linked to everything in the universe, including the animals, trees, flowers, sun and the moon).
So let's think about it: the summer solstice is a day of pure LIGHT, so what do you think nature is trying to tell us? To celebrate! To shine brightly! To honour! To play! To love HARD.
This time also signifies our official transition into summer. We are emerging out of spring, which was a period of birthing new ideas, beginning anew, and planting seeds of our dreams and desires. We were stepping forward from the icy layers and gentle cocoon of winter's dark and shadowy months.
Summertime is a time for manifestation. Its the time for seeing the ripening of our ideas, witnessing them coming to fruition, and for enjoying the beauty that comes with appreciating the contrast between this time of light with the deep letting go, introspection, and shadow work that often comes in winter.
If there is one tip for you right now it is to just ENJOY your life. Enjoy watching some of your dreams come true. Enjoy the beauty around you. Enjoy seeing the richness and abundance in your life. Let yourself laugh more. Take off the mask and be a little more you. Celebrate your successes thus far this year. Honour your growth. Bask in your beauty by doubling down on self-care and the things that make you feel gorgeous and loved.
Your ritual / self-reflection and intention setting questions are below.
Love you, you beautiful shining star!!
Your Summer Solstice Ritual + Self Reflection Questions
1. Get yourself out into nature to enjoy all of the LIGHT that nature is coming in with right now.
2. Buy or make yourself something that feels pleasurable and signifies "celebration" to you - ie: chocolate, prosecco, vegan ice cream, whateves.
3. Acknowledge and write out all that you are most proud of yourself for doing so far this year. What happened in the winter that you're now on the other side of and have released? Write about the courage you had in spring to start to step into your light a little more or take steps in the directions of your dreams. Honour all that you are and where you're at on your journey right now.
4. Now indulge in your favourite treat and soak in the sweetness of your life!!! Celebrate YOU for being YOU.
5. Next, gather petals from flowers and put them in a big bowl of warm water. You can also add some essential oils.
6. Think about your intention for the summer - how do you want to FEEL?
7. Dip your hands into the warm water for a few minutes, closing your eyes, and saying "I honour my cycles of growth. I release what is ready to be released. I am open to receive the abundance of my life. I celebrate myself. I love myself."
8. Now bring your hands on your heart or in prayer position and set your intention for the summer - again, how do you want to FEEL?
8. Bring the water and dump it into the ground/soil and set your intention again, finishing it by saying "and so it is."
9. Remind yourself you're a GD radiant warrior goddess queen.
10. Want to get in touch with me??? Cool. You can do that here.